Loving someone
in addiction.

For the one no one is tending

You have carried this for so long, alone.

The lying awake. The hope that rises and falls with a phone call. The guilt that whispers this is somehow your fault. The exhaustion of loving someone who is hurting themselves, while trying to hold everyone else together. You have poured yourself out, and slowly you have started to disappear. This book will not shame you, for still loving them, for being angry, or for being tired. And it will never tell you that if you just prayed harder or loved better, they would change.

Over four volumes we walk it together. We lay down the false guilt, because you did not cause this. We loosen the grip of control you were never meant to hold, and release the person you love to a God who loves them even more than you do. We learn that love can have limits, that boundaries are love and not abandonment, and that your safety, and your children's, always comes first. And we anchor hope where it can actually hold: not in the addict's recovery, which rises and crashes, but in God Himself. This book honors the marriage covenant and holds out hope for restoration where it is safe, and it will never ask anyone to stay in danger or abuse. It cannot promise you the person you love will get sober. What it promises is that you are seen, you are loved, and you are not alone. The first week is free.